SINTA, Indonesia

“I don’t believe that children are a blessing because they are children. I believe that children can be a blessing when we really plan carefully for it.”

I was 21 then. I was dating a guy in a monogamous relationship and was having sex responsibly and using condoms. I didn’t plan for it, but I got pregnant anyways.

I first found out I was pregnant around six weeks in. I knew that I couldn’t (or rather, wouldn’t) have a baby at that age. I was too young and I knew that although I had a pretty OK job back then, it wouldn’t be enough for a baby. I didn’t want to subject a horrible life with poor education or horrible upbringing to a baby – MY baby.

Writing this story now, many years older than I was then, things have changed. I have exponentially better[ed] my career and have a better job. I might decide things differently. But, I don’t regret having made the decision of terminating my pregnancy then. I believe that it was the best decision for myself, my future, my (then) boyfriend, and my unborn baby.

It would’ve been so [irresponsible] of me to bring life into this world without really planning for it. How can I feed it? What about school? And housing? Security? No, I don’t believe that children are a blessing because they are children. I believe that children can be a blessing when we really plan carefully for it. And we, as adults, who will bring that life into the world SHOULD be responsible for our decisions. 

DEMAND ACCESS TO SAFE AND LEGAL ABORTION NOW!


(Image: Favianna Rodriguez, http://www.justseeds.org/favianna_rodriguez/19bechange2.html)